Have you noticed how every single independent and free thinking woman has been alone – if not literally then figuratively, she is always noticed only as a reference to a certain context or then she is alone.
I often think to myself… why does a woman who chooses to live her life on her own terms always land up being alone? I guess the answer lies in how a woman looks at herself. I cannot blame men for how a woman is treated. It is a woman who subjugates herself to the man in the house, it is a woman who seeks permission even to perform actions that are an integral part of her persona, it is a woman who feels guilty at a man’s displeasure and it is definitely a woman who blames herself for being her true self. A woman allows what a man does to her and never the other way round.
To the women who read this When are we going to change our perspective of looking at ourselves? When are we going to see ourselves as creators of not just more people but of ideas, societies and ways of life? Unless we give ourselves the privilege of being ourselves, no feministic cry or masculine mercy can liberate us.
To the men who read this When are you going to see independence as a choice and not a privilege? When are you going to liberate yourselves from chauvinistic perspectives? When are you going to let a woman be a woman? When you will you stop measuring women with the yardstick of your own years?
The next time you typecast a task as being a woman’s task or a man’s, the next time you are going to say “its not right for a woman to do…” the next time you dream a dream and ask yourself if it is right go ahead in its pursuit because you are a woman… remember this, each woman is unique, every woman is made of distinct personality features, there is no predecessor to the woman that you are, there is no history of the same personality having existed before. Every woman is unique. Women is not the plural of woman cos’ there are no two women who are alike.
Every woman knows what she wants but every woman hesitates. When you want something, don’t ask yourself if a woman can want such a thing, only ask if you want such a thing and will be enriched by it. The next time you want to do something do so because you want to not because someone else thinks it is appropriate for a woman to do so. Being a woman is not a work of providence but a careful handling of self doubt!! Being a woman is not about being right but having no regrets about being you!!
Happy International Women’s day!!